No more Mr. Nice Guy

Since I’ve started taking care of myself, I stopped being nice. I still strive to be courteous, patient, kind, and respectful. But not nice. Nice has nothing to do with the positive qualities that go with being a decent person.

To explain, I’ll share a bit about my history.

Growing up, I was rewarded for being perfect. I was praised for doing well in school, which included getting into the gifted

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A novelist and award-winning public speaker and technical writer. My novels Amiga and The Remainders are available now.

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Matthew Arnold Stern

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A novelist and award-winning public speaker and technical writer. My novels Amiga and The Remainders are available now.

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