Three Good Things

Matthew Arnold Stern
3 min readSep 17, 2023
Me at Farmer’s Market LA in September 2023.

I rejoined Weight Watchers (WW) nearly four years ago. What I’ve learned there not only helps me with weight management, but in all aspects of life.

Recently, I was introduced to a practice called Three Good Things. You take time out and think about three good things that happened to you today, no matter how small. You write them down and include details, and then you take a moment to reflect on them. This boosts your mood, helps you overcome challenges, and develops a mindset of gratitude.

As an example, here are three good things that happened to me yesterday:

  • I finished all the errands I had to do. This included driving to Newport Beach and Irvine. I got everything done without a hitch.
  • I had dinner out with my wife at our favorite place. We are usually so busy, we never have time for ourselves. So, it felt good to enjoy a meal with her.
  • I watched the final inning when the Dodgers clinched the NL West. I was busy, tired, and didn’t feel like sitting in front of a TV, but I was happy to see my favorite team celebrate their win.

Three Good Things can be used for more than weight management and mental well-being. It can be helpful in writing.

We all go through moments where things aren’t going well. A story isn’t coming together, an agent rejects a manuscript, or we get a one-star review. I’ve seen many writers in this situation question their ability and become tempted to give up. Instead, we can stop and think about three good things about our writing and the project we’re working on. As another example, I’ll share three good things about my writing and my recently submitted Christina’s Portrait.

  • I’m proud to have completed five novels and a non-fiction book. It was my dream to even write just one book, and it took me a long time to get to that point in my writing career. In the past 20 years, I’ve finished six.
  • I’ve gotten praise from my writing and plenty of great reviews. So, if there are people who don’t like my books, that’s OK. I know there are people who do.
  • Noreen Davis in Christina’s Portrait is the best character in any of my novels. She suffers incredible heartbreak and trauma, but she endures through quiet courage and a bit of snark.

--

--

Matthew Arnold Stern

A novelist and award-winning public speaker and technical writer. My novels Amiga and The Remainders are available now.